If you or someone you know is facing abuse at home, the first step is to understand what domestic violence looks like. It's not just physical hits – it can be shouting, controlling money, spying on texts, or making threats. Knowing the full range helps you spot trouble early and act before things get worse.
Look for changes in mood or behaviour. A partner who suddenly isolates you from friends, checks every call, or decides how you spend money is showing control. Physical signs are obvious – bruises, cuts, injuries that don’t match the story. Emotional red flags include constant guilt‑tripping, blaming you for everything, or threatening self‑harm if you leave.
Often the abuser mixes love and fear. One minute they’re charming, the next they lash out. If you feel scared to speak up around them, that nervous feeling is a strong signal something isn’t right. Trust your gut – it’s usually telling you the truth.
The fastest way to stay safe is to have a plan. Write down emergency numbers on a piece of paper and keep it somewhere the abuser can’t see. South Africa’s 0800 123‑456 (Domestic Violence Hotline) connects you to free counseling and shelter options in Gauteng.
Tell a trusted friend or family member what’s happening. Share your plan, ask them to check in daily, and let them know where you’re staying if you need to leave quickly. Many NGOs offer safe houses that keep your address confidential.
If you decide to leave, do it when the abuser isn’t home or after a calm moment. Pack an emergency bag with IDs, money, medication, and any children’s essentials. Keep this bag in a car trunk or at a friend’s place so you can grab it fast.
Legal protection is available too. You can file for a protection order through the Gauteng courts – it legally bars the abuser from contacting you. The process can be done without a lawyer, and many shelters help with paperwork.
Remember, getting help isn’t a sign of weakness. It’s a brave step toward safety. If you ever feel in immediate danger, call 10111 (Police) right away. Even if the situation feels complicated, reaching out to a hotline or counselor can give you clear next steps.
Healing takes time. Support groups let survivors share stories and rebuild confidence together. In Gauteng, organizations like Lifeline South Africa and Women's Legal Centre run regular meetings that are free and confidential.
Take one small action today – whether it’s saving a hotline number, talking to someone you trust, or reading this guide again later. Every step moves you closer to a safer life.
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